Moving to a new neighborhood or starting at a new school can be a difficult transition for any child. For the nearly 2 million children of service members, it is important to ensure that parents maintain healthy connections with their children and reinforce positive experiences so that together, they can face challenges that come with being connected to the military. One of the greatest challenges for some military families is to ensure that children receive a fine education despite having to move frequently.
This excerpt, adapted from Ken Ginsburg’s Building Resilience in Children and Teens: Giving Kids Roots and Wings, lays out useful steps and strategies to make the transition as seamless as possible.
HOW TO PREPARE FOR THE MOVE
Preparing for the move may set the stage for success. Several months before the move, parents can begin to familiarize the family with schools in the community.
Parents and children can visit the district and school Web sites to look for academic credentials and programs, athletics, and clubs available. Many Web sites
have posted additional information and news updates about the campus. Such information can help allay your child’s fears.
A school’s Web site may provide information about schedules and calendars, including start dates, holidays, and end dates. These are not standardized from state to state or even within a state. Incorrectly assuming your children’s new school schedule is similar to that of their current schools can result in their enrollment being
days and even weeks later than the official start date of the district. Classes in which they wish to enroll may be full, friendships are already solidifying, and athletic
teams may have a cutoff date for students wishing to make the team.
Collect and organize school records
Hand carrying school records is vital in a school move. These records may include a photocopy of a cumulative folder, withdrawal paperwork, report cards, information on textbooks used, and a copy of the student’s health record. Calling the person in charge of registration, likely a counselor or registrar, several weeks prior to the move will give time to copy these documents. It will also give the counselor or registrar the opportunity to let you know what you need to do to withdraw your child from the school.
You need to hand carry documentation related to any special programs your child is enrolled in, whether enrichment, gifted, accelerated, special education, or 504 services. The receiving school may send a formal request for records to the sending school, and the documents you provide at the time of registration may be the
only information the new school has to make informed placement decisions. This is extremely important for students receiving special education and 504 services. The information you provide may be instrumental in your child receiving services seamlessly; without that information your child may experience a lapse in services.
Visit the school
When you arrive in your new community, a trip to your child’s campus can give him an idea of what to expect.
• The school may give him a tour and a map so he can familiarize himself with the facility. Knowing where the cafeteria, auditorium, restrooms, and counselor’s office are can go a long way toward helping a student settle in to a new routine.
• Explore what clubs and athletics are available for your child and how to go about joining them. Remember that although your biggest concerns may be about academics, your child’s biggest concern may be about finding his locker or a group to sit with at lunch.
• Meet with your child’s principal or assistant principal, counselor, and teachers to help establish a personal connection. They may go further out of their way to ensure your child adjusts well. You can also ask about school policies, including dress code and general codes of conduct.
• Find out how parents can get involved. Volunteering on your child’s campus or joining a parent organization such as the PTA can help you make contacts at the school while making you and your child more comfortable in new surroundings.
Fitting in is vitally important to children and adolescents. A visit to the school’s Web site can show pictures of students in the new community. Once you have arrived, look around the community to see what clothing, shoes, hairstyles, and accessories local kids are wearing. It may be that a few purchases would be all it takes to ease your child into his new life in his new community.
WHERE TO TURN FOR ADDITIONAL HELP WITH THE TRANSITION
Many organizations work to help students transition to new schools. One organization particularly worthy of notice is the Military Child Education Coalition (MCEC). It is devoted to helping schools and military installations deliver accurate, timely information to meet transitioning parent and student needs. It focuses on ensuring quality educational opportunities for all military-connected children affected by mobility, family separation, and transition.
- Babies on the Home Front – http://babiesonthehomefront.org/downloadfree-app/
- Military Child Education Coalition (MCEC) – www.militarychild.org
- Military Installations – www.militaryinstallations.dod.mil
- Military OneSource – www.militaryonesource.mil/web/mos/familyrelationships/
- Pregnancy and New Parent Knowledge Management Program – http://info.ubicare.com/tricare_pregnancychildhood-education